Mind Advantage in Famous magazine
Mind Advantage Co-Director Jacqui Manning has contributed her wisdom to an article in a recent issue of ‘Famous’ magazine – see some excerpts below.
WAS A WOMANISER
Sadie Frost divorced Jude Law for “unreasonable behaviour”, and his dalliance with his nanny while he was engaged to Sienna Miller didn’t help his commitment credibility, either. Perennial pants-men can change their ways, says Mind Advantage psychologist Jacqui Manning, but you need to set boundaries from the start.
“Negotiate what’s on and what’s not,” she says. “Remember that those women were before he met you, perhaps at a time in his life when he wasn’t ready to settle down. It doesn’t mean he’s going to be like that forever, so give him and your relationship a chance by communicating openly.”
ON THE REBOUND
“If [a guy] talks non-stop about his ex or, conversely, falls head over heels for you right away, he may need more time to grieve for the lost relationship,” says Jacqui. “True connections take time, so if you still feel his emotional focus is on the past instead of on you after a few months, talk to him about it and assess whether you are willing to ride it through a little longer.”
WAS MARRIED BEFORE
“But as long as you communicate about any worries you have, such as why your partner’s marriage broke down and what he learned from it, hooking up with a guy who’s divorced isn’t necessarily a bad thing, says Jacqui.
“Much will depend on his experiences while was married and if he is on amicable terms with his ex,” she says. “Being married before may mean he’s capable of commitment and possibly willing to get serious.”
Other chapters deal with drug problems, balancing relationships and friends, his children and a partner’s same-sex experiences.